- how grief can be therapeutic, yet terribly draining?
- how intimate, isolating and secretive it could be?
- how it’s a badge of honor to some and a weakness to another?
- how it can manifest into illness and sabotage our intentions?
- how everyone is feeling it, yet it’s almost never discussed?
I’m on a mission to change the paradigm of grief.
Grief is a natural consequence of life.
It doesn’t have to be daunting or take forever.
And if properly explored, it can be absolutely enlightening!
In a 10-year span, I experienced the loss of my parents, home, marriage and business, and then suicides of my brother and teenaged son. It was traumatizing. My grief, as you might imagine, was multi-faceted. I obsessively thought about my beloveds. While others tried to comfort me, they would also back away, especially when I talked about my son, Reed.
It was a confusing and overwhelming time because my trauma was embodied.
I felt isolated from what seemed like everyone and everything.
I no longer felt like myself.
In the meantime, I was a speech pathologist who took her science and profession seriously. Every day, I helped people through loss of communication to speaking again. I became intrigued by the skill of listening, wondering how it might assist others back into their voice. This led to a training course in Rubenfeld Synergy.
What happened there was unexpected. I discovered tools that freed me from the grip of grief. I learned how and where grief resided in my body and how quickly it could be released. As despair began to dissolve, I felt my life-force begin to return, showing me a new way to exist.
My relationships improved. My confidence was back. I saw beauty in myself like never before. My work felt important again. I saw possibility instead of obstacles only.
A woman once said to me, “You have to stop crying about Reed. He’s on the other side smiling and wants you to stop.” I thought, “Why the hell can you see my son and I can’t?” This led me to book a session with an experienced medium who could get in touch with Reed.
Less than three weeks later, I began to hear messages that sounded like my son. The medium confirmed my connection was legit, but I already knew the truth of what was happening. My body had become a fine-tuned, listening instrument thanks to Gentle Listening Touch of Rubenfeld Synergy and my newly found inner-trust.
Around this time, I was asked at a conference to name something I was afraid to admit. I blurted out for the first time, “I can speak with my dead son.” The facilitator of the retreat calmly responded, “That’s because you’re a medium.”
In marketing myself as a Synergy practitioner, grief was clearly my specialty. I love being able to companion others to a healthier place emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually. And yes, sometimes I connect with a departed soul. I don’t see dead people often, but at times it happens.
Building on the Rubenfeld Method, I later created a modality called Powerful Embodied Presence (PEP). Using PEP techniques, I teach therapists along with spiritual, community and mastermind groups how to dialogue with their bodies, access inner stillness, transcend sorrow and integrate grief’s greatest gifts.
In 2012, my story was featured in the book, You Make a Difference: 50 Heart-Centered Entrepreneurs Share Their Stories of Inspiration and Transformation.
Most of us are never taught how to acknowledge our pain and work with it differently. Because of that, my clients often confess, they can’t tell anyone they’re doing this. They are afraid people will think they’re weak, self-indulgent or wallowing in their sorrow. But they know it’s time to care for themselves.
It’s an honor to companion the willing and brave through this process of awakening. For too long, death has been associated with the passing of a loved one. We forget, loss happens constantly in every aspect of our lives.
- Has your job or business slipped away or been forced to close?
- Is your health not what it was and it’s hard to accept?
- Are you grieving a friend, pet, partner, child or parent?
- Have you lost money or a vision for what you wanted in life?
Let’s discuss how you feel today & what could change through our work together.