Do you feel Love or Loathing on Father’s Day?

My Dear Community,

What thoughts and feelings come up as you think about Father’s Day?

So many people have fathers who were absent or abusive. The memories of these men are lodged as trauma in the body.

I invite you to bring to mind a memory of your father.

If it is one you loathe, try this first:

  1. Use the phrase What is not mine, I leave behind
  2. Picture yourself moving away from that image. No matter what age you are in your mental picture.

Believe it or not, YOU have the mental capacity, to leave this image behind. We are not meant to live constricted, rolled up in a tight little ball.

Some of my clients feel an instantaneous shift in their life trajectory using this technique during Synergy sessions.

But sometimes our memories are too traumatic and filled with anxiety. It’s often difficult to access Love.

So, if you still can’t find love, try going outside:

  1. Try looking to nature, a continuous source of soothing energy.
  2. Focus outside yourself. Notice the sights and smells of trees, grass, and the air.
  3. Breathe in deeply. Soak up the nature surrounding you.

Allison Clarke shared this:

Reports show that being in nature improves concentration, lessens feelings of anger, boosts immunity, reduces stress, and improves your mood.

Environmental writer Naima Montacer talks about nature’s powerful effects on the body, mind, and spirit.

She writes about one hospital study showing, “Patients with a tree to view through their window had shorter hospital stays, received fewer negative comments from nurses, took fewer analgesics, and had slightly lower scores for post-surgical complications.”

“Schools with nature programs have reported higher test scores, graduation rates, and more student interest in college. There’s no doubt about it, we are meant to merge with nature.”

Could the healing gift of nature be your bridge to LOVE?

Still feeling a little stuck? You may have residual grief about your relationship with your father. Try using this Powerful Prayer for Shifting Grief.

Thank you to everyone who responded to last week’s post. It was amazing to read your comments. Here are just two examples:

#1 “I was just about to send a ‘fixing’ reply to my son when the notice of your newsletter arrived. I stopped and read it. Then I sent a completely different text – fix free.”

 #2 “A shaman suggested to a minister friend to say/do this after something emotionally intense:

 What is not mine, I leave behind

The minister came home from weddings and other emotionally intense events with a headache. The shaman pointed out that the minister was absorbing ALL of the energy present at the event.

 Now my minister friend literally sits in her car and says this, regardless of where she’s departing, but especially from spiritual gatherings, after giving a talk, or facilitating a ritual.”

Your Responses Matter

Each of you in this community is making a difference when you become;

  • Aware
  • Get still and breathe
  • Connect from your heart with another.


Love all around, above, below, to the left and to the right, before you and behind you,



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