Today, January 6th is Epiphany. It is the day in the Christian tradition that
commemorates the visit of the three kings to the Infant Jesus. The Magi according to
the story, had followed a star until it stopped over the place where the child lay.
I wonder if they were “surprised” to happen upon this scene, a stable? Were they
expecting something else?
I remember the stunning epiphany of the word ‘surprise” while being “the Client”
for a “practice” session of Rubenfeld Synergy during my four-year training. The
place was Scottsdale, AZ in the home of the now professional Synergist, Kim Evans.
It hardly looked like a stable, this gorgeous home in the desert. But ‘stable’ it was for
the release of unrecognized grief frozen in my body some four years earlier.
Lying on my back on a padded table, eyes closed, intending to deeply relax and
be fully present to the method of Rubenfled Synergy, Melissa Shreck, places her
hands on either side of my head in ”First Touch”.
“What are you noticing?” she softly inquires.
“Surprise. The surprise of my thirty-ninth birthday party!” I exclaim, intrigued
by the image that has appeared in my head of it’s own volition.
“Surprise” she repeats allowing me to hear, feel and deepen my experience in the
present moment.
“Surprise” I wail as the image of arriving home to the flashing lights of emergency
vehicles burst into my awareness. The image expands to include my eldest son,
Vincent, bouncing up and down on the frozen driveway in his bare feet, arms
flapping like a bird desperately trying to leave the scene, while my son, Reed, bloody
face draped, is wheeled away on a gurney.
Sobs shake my body as the “thawing” of this unconscious, frozen grief begins.
Completely surprised by this intense embodied grief, the shock now
being released reverberates throughout my entire body. Melissa stays present, her
hands never leaving me. Our supervisor, Maddie McDougal, piles blankets on my
now freezing body. The image in my mind’s-eye is that of a frozen tundra. I
have no words only the anguished tears of grief. Cared for, held, protected and
supported, they are not frightened by this grief.
At last the tears subside, my breath becomes even once again and my eyes open as the epiphany “I never knew I held this grief after all the tears I have shed” reveals itself.
Now as a Grief Guide, I empower clients to release their grief with this safe, deep
method and discover the epiphanies of their body.
Sitting quietly this day, notice your breath. With your feet touching the floor or
knees bent as you lie on your back, allow yourself to say aloud the word “surprise”.
What happens?
What star leads you?
What epiphany reveals itself to you?
This is an astounding story of your revelation of more grief trapped in your body and how it was ultimately released.
Very powerful, Georgena.
Thank you for your absolute generosity in sharing this story. I am moved by your strength, and am so sorry to know that you had to experience this reality. The movement of grief in the session demonstrates the power that simple and genuine presence has. I know that you bring this powerful simplicity and genuine presence into all of your sessions. And to everything you do.
much love, Patricia
I have read your “Surprise” article many times and each time I come away with gratitude to you for your courage and generosity in sharing. I thank you for sharing your experience of frozen grief and pain in such a clear and beautiful way so that we all can learn about one of life’s intimate experiences and journeys. As a Synergist, I can learn what helped you in this session - thank you. I also learn as a human being what stored grief felt like for you and how love, support and skillful guidance helped you claim and release it.
Love, Nan